Unwanted Voice.

After nearly a month of silence the devil spoke and reappeared on Monday. I didn't open it until Friday but once again feeling haunted by the mistakes of the past.

Whilst the voice was not threatening it was not welcome. Someone asked was it remorseful? I don't think the devil is capable of remorse. More agrandisement to make her feel better. Have I once again met evil?

Talking of evil, and I mean evil, I learned in the week that the university has finally expunged a cancer within its core. No one knew until I broke the news. One thing I know of that place is if you get too loud, too obvious, too much of a problem they will pay you off and silence you.

Although my troubles follow me I have escaped to the seaside. Alone at dad's flat I'm enjoying the silence. He is at church. I will get going on roast pork shortly. When it's in crackled I will turn it down and walk to the beach.

I'm here until Thursday. May peace and silence reign.

I Heard a Voice.

An Evolutionary Response.

Sunday lunchtime on International Wonen's Day. I'm home listening to opera on yet another grey day. Grey or not the fight for equality, safety and acceptance goes on. As an unknowing and weak ally I can only add my quiet voice of support to the extraordinary women I know.

Tired is probably the best way to describe me. An intense working week assessing the White Paper on SEND Reform filled my week with review and analysis. That work, a distilled version, will soon be presented to the Executive Board of the Trust.

Getting noticed in high places is not something I seek and if I'm honest makes me feel uncomfortable. But it is happening.

The way forward may be too radical to be seen as evolutionary. The report has profound implications for our staff, our training and our model. I've been saying this from day 1. We must change.

Most importantly it means that children and young people caught in the nether world between mild to severe will finally get support. That must be a good thing.

Aside from my work my recent brush with devilry still impacts and hurts. But I still get through each day.

Next weekend I will be home by the sea with my family and friends. Let us hope the sun shines and I can walk along the beach, hear the gulls and the wind and see the waves breaking.

I Heard a Voice.

Winter or Spring?

As winter ends and spring begins there is little to choose between them. Grey and wet. Grey though mentally is better than the eternal darkness that pervaded my mind for nearly a month. The blackness returned yesterday, today more grey despite horrible nightmares in the early hours of this morning.

In the cold light of day I'm tired but functioning better. I've lost so much weight and barely eating for a month cooking has been a mountain to climb. But I did cook today, roast rolled breast of turkey. The plate looked mountainous by my standards but I managed about two thirds of it.

The washing up lies undone as I'm listening to Puccini opera with a chilled glass of white Toscana.

I spoke to three people on the phone yesterday. All helpful in understanding the mailstrom of emotional chaos recently. It's still raw and hurting though. Hard not to ask the question why me? I tarry too long in the dark recesses of the mental health world and get trapped. What people think matters but I always seem to get burned.

The question of what is my purpose is a common comment on men's suicide notes and testimony of survivors. Not that suicide is on my mind but as a survivor who fought through years of illness, unemployment, poverty and despair I had to find a purpose to recover. That purpose is to help others. Is that a healthy purpose? Well yes and no. I'm great at looking after the mental health of others but terrible at my own mental health. Be kind to yourself even if others are unkind to you.

With I'll leave you on this first day of spring.

I Heard a Voice.

Echoes in the Silence.

Another week done. The drama of the week before has retreated into silence although echoes of memories keep coming back. I however am talking. Talking to those who care and love me. And they are many. I need my friends in hurt times.

A word I have been reluctant to use is betrayal. Yet two friends have both used that word a month on from the emotional earthquake. The devil remains silent but the echoes of betrayal still hit hard.

Aside from that it was payday on Wednesday. Turkish barber after work then dinner at The Waggoners. On Thursday I went to Lam Nam Moon with Jess. She's met the devil in person so knows. Jess remains one of my most trusted friends. Yesterday I went The Neem Tree with Sarah. Sarah knows the meaning of betrayal.

Now the weekend must be filled. I woke today tired, flat and lethargic. No motivation to do anything. But I must do not just ruminate. Lunch, washing and dinner must be done although I feel no drive or intereste in any of those.

Do I got out today? It is cold and wet out. Not enticing. I feel like isolating myself from the world. Not the best plan that.

In the wider world it is a wider war in the middle east. I know little of Iran but I know a lot about military things. I don't see what the objective is or what the end game is. The world has gone out of control.

I Heard a Voice.

Unmasking the Devil.

Rare is the day I get deceived by who people are. I've made a living getting inside people's heads. Some have described me as a mind reader, someone who can see into their souls. Not my words but the words of others.

My recent malaise, depression, intrusive thoughts, fear and doubt is as it transpires the result of a deep deception. I try to be kind and supportive to everyone but that kindness can be used by some. As someone said on Friday your kindness has been weaponised and used against you.

Knowing many people can be helpful though. And some can say things that instantly diminish the emotional pain. It took a while coming but it is diminished. Not that I feel great but better than I did. Do not trust too much; too dangerous.

Battered and bruised I'm working my way through Sunday morning. It's a nothing kind of day outside. Mild though. Inside I'm listening to Tosca and preparing to cook roast beef.

After a week of doing nothing but online mandatory training and some of it was pretty harrowing and emotionally draining. Triggering is not a word I like but how shall I put it, caused flashbacks and brought back the shame of old. Next week my diary has some structure.

Back in Kent preparation for dad's birthday in mid March. Restaurant is booked, Miriam and Nigel have booked to stay and an invitation has been extended to Beka.

Must get on with lunch preparations.

I Heard a Voice.

Interpreting the Tone.

It's another filthy day here in Hertfordshire. We had a brief respite from the rain yesterday when the sun came out but it was bitterly cold. Today it is hammering it down with rain again.

My mood is as bleak as the clouds outside. A really horrible three weeks. That it is different from my usual depression is clear. Dark, low mood accompanied by bewilderment and confusion. The sense of what have I done lays heavy on my mind. I try to always be kind and supportive to those around me. To curb my anger and display to the world a quiet confidence.

I feel anything but confident at the moment. In this age of instant messaging it is easy sometimes to misinterpret the tone of the written word. Maybe that's what I have done. But when a reem of messages come in from the instigator of my current malaise all of which feel hostile, aggressive, condemnatory and frankly plain nasty it is hard to know how to respond.

Silence endued. Simply not knowing what to say hurts. Am I playing games? Punishing? Being unkind? After a two week gap the messages recommenced. Not in a kind way. My response was a video message. Maybe that was right. Maybe wrong. But I hoped interpretation would be easier.

The morning after I'm too anxious to look at a response. Fear pervades. Maybe I should have blocked her or ignored her as so many of my friends said. But those who read my last post I consider such actions childish.

So for now messages are unopened. I'm listening to The Magic Flute and cooking roast pork. I have friends coming round.

I Heard a Voice 

A Puerile Action?

I have long considered blocking people online a rather puerile action. Puer meaning boy in Latin, by extension childish. In this age of digital media, incomprehensible passwords, digital footprints and paranoid suspicions I have never felt threatened enough to take such sanctions.

A week ago I felt I needed to do such a thing. I'm ever cautious on here because of the paranoia of others. Others who by their own admission have stalked me, checked out my social media and even circled my flat to see what can be seen through in windows. I let them in and they betrayed me.

That word betrayal is a powerful, risky and argue self absorbed word. I have struggled with it for more than two weeks. To commit makes us vulnerable. To be betrayed makes us dangerously vulnerable.

My world is one of despair, instability and damage. Mental health can be brutal. Many claim that epitaph but few have see  what I've seen.

Friendships and relationships in that world are unstable and dangerous. Yet again I've been burned.

There are many many flaws in my character and many mistakes in my conduct and decision making. I'm only too aware. But I always try to be kind, be loving and be supportive. This time I failed and I'm paying the price.

Tonight I watch the Super Bowl. Tomorrow I go back to reality.

I Heard a Voice.